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All parents have their own unique way of bringing up their kids. They do their best to raise them, but nobody’s perfect. That’s why when they look back, they all want to fix some common parenting mistakes they made in the past. They missed out on the most important moments in their children’s lives. Here are some of the things they regret, so you can avoid making the same mistakes.
Common Parenting Mistakes: Parents Regret, That They:
They scolded their children too often, reprimanding a child for something they did wrong is totally normal. But sometimes parents go overboard, and it turns into nitpicking. Some parents believe that the higher their expectations are for their children, the more successful the kids will be in the future. But it surely doesn’t work this way. Scolding a child for every little mistake can lead to behavioral problems. And of course, being too strict can have another huge downside, a poor relationship with your child. That’s why you should only punish your kids for things that actually matter. A broken cup shouldn’t be on that list, too.
Ignored Kid’s Events
Of course, every parent has lots of commitments and juggling all of them is no easy feat. But children desperately need parents to be there for them. Even if you think you have a good reason to miss your child’s school play, do your best to be present, find time to visit Grandma, go to the theater, decorate your house for the holidays because your bond with your children gets stronger by creating memories together. Some occasions that might not seem that important for an adult really mean a lot for kids. Children need to have someone close to them at moments like these. Otherwise, in the future, you’ll feel bad about how many great moments passed you.
Didn’t Pay Attention to Playing Activities
Definitely, simply playing creative games with your kids won’t necessarily make them great artists or musicians in the future. But hey, there’s always a chance. Doing this has a lot of other advantages as well. Any kind of activity, like drawing or playing with playdough has a positive effect on developing their intelligence, imagination, and increasing their vocabulary. Also, if your kid is engaged in a lot of different activities, it makes it easier for you to find out what they have an interest in, and what they’re good at. This is important since they can show promising abilities even at a young age and develop them later.
Didn’t Take Enough Photos and Videos
Obviously not taking photos won’t have any bad impact on your kids’ lives. But it’s the best way to capture amazing moments that you don’t want to forget. When your kids grow up and leave home. The pictures will be there to remind you what a long way they’ve come. Besides looking through those pictures together with your grown-up kids let you relive all their milestones and those beautiful memories together. That’s why not using a camera often enough is one of the regrets many parents can relate to. And even though we live in a digital era, having a classic photo album can be a nice family tradition.
Ignored Kid’s Opinion
They didn’t take their child’s opinion into account. “You’re too young to decide”. Probably, you heard this phrase quite often when you were a kid. It was irritating, right? But this kind of attitude from parents can have a serious impact on a kid’s future. If children feel like their opinion is often neglected, they may grow up to be insecure. Really, how can you know what you want from life or set your own goals to achieve if there was always someone who made decisions for you? Of course, as a parent, you can’t go along with your kid’s every wish or desire. I mean, your kid really can’t bring home every stray dog, really. But instead of simply refusing, explain to the child why it’s a bad idea. In some other cases, you can discuss their opinion and meet them halfway.
Avoided Communicating with Their Children
They didn’t enjoy communicating with their child. Communication between parents and kids is probably the most important thing in upbringing. So if you don’t put aside enough time for it, one day, you’ll wake up and realize your child has grown up already and is living their own life. Of course, it’s totally okay to do things around the house when your kid is playing alone. But try not to turn it into a habit. Because children need not only your physical presence but emotional involvement as well to feel they’re loved and cared about. There’s no turning time back. So let yourself enjoy the moments you spend together.
Didn’t Educate Them About Money
For some reason, some parents avoid the topic of money with their kids. Of course, these children don’t believe that money grows on a tree, but they might think it just magically appears in the ATM, without education on personal finance and responsible spending. Children don’t understand the real worth of money. And when they grow up, they find it hard to manage their own income. Giving your kids some pocket money will teach them how to save up and spend wisely. Besides, you can let your teen earn his own money. They can mow the lawn of a neighbor or babysit. Every time you go shopping together, tell your kids how much money they can spend this time to limit their wishes. All these tips will provide your children with opportunities to learn about things like budgeting, saving, and being more responsible.
Didn’t Make Them Happy
They didn’t make their child happy enough. Good memories from our childhood are a real treasure for most of us. We like to go back in our minds to that time when we were carefree. And every day was filled with doing something for the first time. Every child should have a lot of new experiences and live in a healthy atmosphere. That’s what makes them happy. And when kids are happy, they develop more actively, which means they’ll find it easier to adapt to adult life and start new relationships in the future. So go to an amusement park, ride ponies and sail a boat with your kid tried to do something exciting at least once a day together to make sure your child has as many happy moments in their life as possible.
Didn’t Hug Their Children Often Enough
Hugs are not only a perfect way to show affection but also scientifically proven to be good for our health because they help protect against stress. Besides, it’s simply nice to hug your own child. Unfortunately, sometimes parents don’t do it as often as they should. Some of them think that being too affectionate with a child can make them less obedient. Others, especially if we talk about babies believe that holding and hugging a baby all the time means that they’ll demand it too much in the future. But the truth is, the older a child gets, the less they want to be hugged. So enjoy the hugs with your kids while you can.
Consistency might just be one of the biggest challenges in upbringing. For example, you usually don’t let your kids eat unhealthy food. But suddenly you get too caught up with work and give them pizza for lunch. Next thing you know they’re demanding it for every meal. It may feel next to impossible to maintain the exact same standards for your children daily. But not trying to do so often leads to major regrets for parents. Kids get confused about what’s allowed and what’s not. Without clear boundaries, they probably won’t behave the way you want them to, and obedience issues become inevitable. Also, don’t forget that you should follow your own rules to set an example. No phone during family dinner means no phone for everyone.
Often Followed Someone Else’s Advice
There are people who just can’t help but give advice, even if nobody asked for it. And sometimes young, inexperienced parents feel like it’s better to listen to them. Of course, some of it may be useful and sensible. But never forget that you are the parent. So it’s up to you to decide what’s best for your kids. Also, don’t let strangers scold your child for misbehaving. A child needs to feel there’s always someone who will support and protect them. So let them know they can always count on you.
Children should always expect from their parents’ love and care. And what’s your favorite childhood memory?